What Freedom looks like. Just exactly what does it mean – “To be Free”? This study is not about the value for self that a person let go of. This study is about the core values a person holds on to.
The building blocks of recovery by: Steve Scaggs (all rights reserved)
Unit One: What Freedom Looks like—
Freedom: Use words to define what freedom looks like from looking at yesterday and probabilities of tomorrow.
Question: Will tomorrow look like yesterday? OR-
• Tomorrow and what it will bring into my life.
Will tomorrow be a better day than yesterday?
Unit Two: What Freedom Looks like—
I get – Disappointments:
I get – opportunities:
To be turned down
Not content – (literally no resource)
What was brought in our life
What will be brought into my life
-money -resources become resourceful
Step one, Step one
Disappointment = quit Then: Survival mode “street is where I belong”
-Better quality of life
Character – discipline
I have solid referrals:
I have provable quality of life
Character – discipline
Unit Three: What Freedom Looks like—
If I do not know what freedom is and how to have freedom in my life:
Not resourceful= no support
How do I get others to carry my load?
No remedy = maybe relief?
I need direction to get tomorrow…
But I made a “deal” to get out of pain
Get caught “using” people
So I get others to do my “clean-up”
Adopt excuses for wrong choices
I will become full of conflict-
I will not be held responsible for the “mud puddle”
I am always on probation
Everything is an emergency because I will no
Plan for the stress of getting better
Unit Four: What Freedom Looks like—
The only proof that I made choices yesterday?
– my record:
What I did not do – and did I survive? Or
What I did not do right.
The problem about yesterday?
What I did not do to “better”
I did not have any compelling purpose for my life.
I am not responsible for my life.
No purpose = not responsible
I lost relationship with people that I love.
I gave away the value or others in my life.
I am alone – I have no respect for myself.
I am without direction in my life.
Will my life ever get better?
What reason do I have for not planning for this day?
The only proof that I am able to have another
Did I thrive – Did I respond – Did I grow?
Did I learn anything from yesterday?
The test we will take today – concerning yesterday?
I need to learn to “finish” today. Do better.
I will do better today – I will do my best, next.
I am responsible for where I am today?
I did my best today and tomorrow.
I will reap gladly reap what I have sown.
What reasons do I have for being away from the
People that I love and that love me?
I am earning the respect of others.
What reasons do I have for planning for today?
I am committed to what is important in my life.
I have so many reasons for planning for this day.
Unit Five: What Freedom Looks like—
Role of counselor?
If My personal needs do not get met.
“I don’t get what I deserve”
If all I do is “take from others?”
If I struggle with my health issues.
No one cares about me, anyway!
If, all the places and times
That I did not receive correction.
I did not get my needs met.
If I did not do or if did not do right.
Nothing changed. No gain.
Nobody gets anything from me – ever again.
My view of life?
What reason do I have for being angry about how
I am treated?
“I get what I have earned”
Do I “receive from others?”
What reason do I have for not
taking better care of Myself?
Others “need” the best me I can be.
All the times that I “needed”
that I did not receive correction. to see a better way…..
I did not get my needs met. I learned to get my needs met.
To make tomorrow better…
I changed. I gained.
“Others” gained from a better me!
Unit Six: What Freedom Looks like—
I need to know if I am injured
I need to see my challenges
I need to own my failures
I need to address my weaknesses
I wasted a lot of time
I need to know if I am OK…
I need to prove my abilities
I need to resolve my indifferences…
I need to reconcile my failures…
I need to give my time to what is most important
Unit Seven: What Freedom Looks like—
If I could just get out of this mess
Mess = problems
I just don’t get paid what I am worth…
I don’t have the patience for doing things in order…
I have to lie on my job app. In order to get hired.
A system of discipline is not what will pay my bills
In need to “game” the system.
I need to be more “clever”
If the things in life that I need did not cost so much
Too much month not enough money.
I never have enough money.
I could fix more things in my life if I had more money.
A hundred bucks won’t buy what it used to.
I am defined by how wrong I am:
About what is important…
Everything in life that is of value – has a price
value = what is important
The first thing I need to do is to earn some money
The first thing I need to do is “make” some time.
The first thing I need to do is “find” training.
If I have a better job I might earn more money.
Good training programs will keep me on track for a good promotion
I need to be more honest and give more effort to life.
Everything in life that has value will cost me my life.
Every dime I earn will be put into a budget.
Every hour of my day will be assigned a value.
I have plenty of time to spend on solving problems
I wisely spend my time and sacrifice to save money
I am defined by how much freedom I have in my life
And about what is important….
Review: What Freedom Looks like—Unit One: What words do we use to define what freedom looks like?
Unit Two: What opportunities do I get to have in my like if I understand what freedom looks like?
Unit Three: What challenges in my life do I deal with if I understand what freedom looks like?
Unit Four: What is the main test that I will continue to deal with if I have freedom in my life?
Unit Five: What are the main characteristics of having freedom in my life?
Unit Six: What does recovery of my freedoms look like if I have defined what is important in my life?
Unit Seven: What does meeting requirements have to do with having freedom from failure in my life?